Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Tip#260: Be Resilient & Confident - You’ve Got Mail

Always remember that whenever you are hit by something unexpected you must stay resilient and confident.

This month I've received quite a number of speaker requests from several large organizations. Unexpectedly one by one they fell through for one reason or another. There was one specific deal I was about to close when I suddenly received a very apologetic call from the client that they simply had to cancel.

What amazed me was my immediate reaction to every situation was not one of disappointment, frustration or any other negative feelings. I actually felt positive and just knew deep inside that other job opportunities would come my way. I felt indestructible.

This was the resilient mindset I first wrote about in tip#47 and also in tip#200 where I outline the keys to achieving indestructible optimism. It takes time to develop but building an indestructible mindset a little bit every day will help you radiate a calm confidence when faced with unexpected change or crisis.

You've Got Mail (1998)

Strangely, these recent events made me think about the romantic comedy You've Got Mail starring Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan. In the film Hanks plays Joe Fox the owner of a large bookstore chain out to put Ryan’s character, Kathleen Kelly, out of business. She is the owner of a small and famous children's bookstore in New York City.

The big corporation succeeds and Kathleen is devastated at losing a family business that her mother left her. What was inspiring is the scene where she sadly visits the children's section of Joe's new bookstore and witnesses the serious lack of knowledge of the sales person. You see how she helps this sales person with her obvious expertise of children's books.

Later you hear that Kathleen is being offered jobs as a book editor because of her expertise. She still had value that others recognized. It just goes to show that opportunities are everywhere as long as you keep believing in yourself and stay open to the possibilities.

So remember the key to dealing effectively with unexpected change and crisis is to build a resilient attitude and an optimistic mindset. Learn to be indestructible in your self-confidence and self-worth.

Be aware that you have strengths, skills and an expertise that has value. Never see a loss of work or any type of rejection as a negative situation. Someone somewhere will see your value. And they will only see your value if you remain absolutely confident that you see it too!

Related Tips on Resilience:
Tip#47: Resilience Is Your Hidden Super Power, Part 1 - 18 Movie Tips
Tip#689: Resilience Is Your Hidden Super Power, Part 2 – Riddick
Tip#741: Resilience Is Your Hidden Super Power, Part 3 – Film Critic Richard Crouse - Amazing Grace
Tip#742: Resilience Is Your Hidden Super Power, Part 4 – The Pianist 
Tip#801: Resilience Is Your Hidden Super Power, Part 5 - Whiplash
Tip#134: You Can Bounce Back - Resiliency - Pixar's Boundin'
Tip#260: Be Resilient & Absolutely Confident - You’ve Got Mail
Tip#725: Focus & Resilience – Hunger Games: Catching Fire - 42

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Anonymous said...

Amen!. Good for you Emmanuel, I agree. Hang in there.


Anonymous said...

Thanks for the advice motivational man. i will remain resilient and the self confidence i attain will take me on my journey forward.

Have a great day and continue inspiring people.
You brighten my day with positivity.


Head Health Nut said...

I get it! Your indestructible mindset is all about accepting what is, having faith that the Universe provides and shows you the way, and faith in yourself to recognize the signs.

And having healthy, balanced optimism allows you to be open to see the opportunities and solutions to every challenge.

Nice movie example, too. I love You've Got Mail. Thanks, Emmanuel!